Someone once equate love to a boomerang,
pretty ironic isn't it, like how can love be allied to, a boomerang ?
Then he explained
" Just let it fly. Cause no matter how hard you throw it, if it still comes back to you, then its meant to be yours. "Since then, this aphorism has pretty much helped me through many situations.
You see after so many years, today i finally got to share this with a friend
and it really worked for her, too.
Being in a relationship seriously isn't easy. All the Good times vs the Bad times, get what i mean?
And being with Ben for our second-going-third year now, we have obviously been through quite alot of
challenges together, or if you'd allow me to put it more crudely, shits.
Let's talk about me.
I have to start getting used to the idea of sharing everything in my life with him.
I have to let him know before making any final decisions.
I have to learn to be more patient. I have to learn to compromise. I have to be more understanding. My life isn't all about myself anymore. And so much more.
Thing is, there are many things which i've learnt and done in this relationship which i would have not have been bothered to if it were to be any other Tom, Dick and Harry.
But the guy im talking about here is Ben, and he is the reason why. Because he made me believe that he is worth all the things which i've done, by doing the same for me.
So far, everything has been worth it. And through all that we've been through, those which does not destroy us has made us even stronger.
We took things pretty slowly from the beginning.
It was only after our first year, when we felt that things are secure enough and brought each other back home to be introduced to our parents. Now, he is over my place everyday.
It was only after our second year, when we felt that things between us are even more secure now to be introduced to our extended families. Grandma, uncles, aunties, cousins. Now, they are constantly asking for him.
What will the third year bring for us, i wonder.
And of course most importantly, the whole can-i-trust-you thing.
I will always remember what Ben once said to me,
" I will not ask for you to trust me. But im asking for some of your time, to let me prove everything for you to see ". And true enough he really did. He gave me no reason or even an excuse to doubt him.
We've had far more good times compared to our very occasional bad times.
You see, a part of me has accepted the fact that nothing is certain between us.
There may be a day when he realised that he is able to love another more than me. That maybe a day will come when things just happen. Or maybe everything that seems so important to us now starts to lose its meaning in time to come.
" But i guess you just need to have a certain kind of faith - to actually believe that what you're doing now will bear some fruit in the future. "
